People skills (f)

 People skills (f)
a black named Lawn, in a flight from New York to Washington, he was placed sitting beside a middle-aged white women. When Lawn just sit down , the lady on the right side of the Lawn glare, and with a very rude friendly. can not think of Lawn smile white woman who bred more resentment, aggressive to the flight attendant she cried over.
put me here, I just can not sit next to black is bad, give me find a seat! Sorry, lady, economy class was full, but there is a vacancy in the First Class. We have never encountered the situation, but I have received special permission from the captain. was so unreasonable a. together, they shall be reported to warm applause.
criticized the qualifications
a rest day morning, I accompanied the mother to the beach activities. After a waterfront park and saw many people flying kites. It is puzzling that all people are crowded on one side of the open space in the park, and that numerous kite line, seems to be twisted into a ball at any time.
I was not impressed, laugh: Why do people prefer to park side of the empty, but innocently, crowded together? So I bought a kite, walk alone no one to put on one side.
kite fly, put a long line, but the instability of the wind so I had to rewind the hands of the line at any time, when too late volume, it had to retreat. Finally, I fly kites and others as far, then I noticed, because the wind's sake, that he was also flying a kite, and the original group of people crowded together.
in meaningful side of the mother sit on the sidelines told me that when we laugh at others, it should first think about why is it so; in the absence of personal experience before, but it should not criticize others.
let others hurt you save face
who might have been forgotten. But the man was you will never forget you. He would never remember your strengths.
few years ago, General Electric, is facing a need to carefully deal with the problem: relieve Charles. ʷ̹��÷�� duties as director of computing. The people in the electrical aspects of leading experts, however, as calculated in the work of director is very competent. then issued a removal order to lift his position? not, the company missed him; and he was particularly sensitive, easily excited. Finally, the company gave him a new title. they let him as of the title. At the same time, they subtly let the other person as the calculation of the appropriate department head. ʷ̹��÷�� very satisfied.
let him save face! how important this is! and we are very less thought of that. We are often stripped of someone else's face ruthless and hurt other people's self-esteem and erase the feelings of others, but self-righteous. We snapped a child in front of others or subordinates, to find errors, fault-finding, or even violent threats, but rarely to consider other people's self-esteem. In fact, as long as a minute or two to think calmly, and said one or two words of understanding, generous attitude towards others, they can reduce the harm to others, what the results will significantly different from the.
1992, after centuries of hostility after the Greeks out of Turkey determined to Turkish territory. Mustafa. Kay Melbourne on his Napoleonic soldiers published an article speech, he said: Nice to Kai Dio Melbourne headquarters of the two generals to surrender, the Turkish soldiers shouting abuse to them, but Mustafa. Kay Melbourne victory but did not show arrogance. He took their hands and said: Sit down, gentlemen, you must be tired. gentlemen, there are many accidental circumstances of war. Sometimes the best soldiers will be defeated. mmm let people save face.

good cause and be merry as a private good is not only a virtue, or a spiritual need.
a late autumn night, I finished classes plus the unit out, vertical from the collar, windy, full of the biting wind chill. roadside begging the elderly and chill. should be the performance of today is not good enough, or he would not still be here, he should find a small restaurant a sip of hot soup, against what cold. my pocket only 10 yuan in the morning to go to work when the purse at home, the original idea for a 10 yuan taxi home. holds that 10 dollars, I hesitated a bit, came up to the old man. well not too far from home, I spent half an hour, trot all the way home, wash a hot bath, and impossible to sleep a good sleep.
If I use the body's remaining 10 yuan taxi home, will spend a sleepless night; I put that 10 dollars to the elderly, running exercise the body, because of fatigue, my sleep quality is very good. the elderly this cold night, you can get a little warm, no Guaai my heart, and even a little complacency.
experience. This is a slogan from a famous New Mexico demonstrations.
New Mexico Foix community has a Sam Fathers, he opposed a bill introduced by the Government of New Mexico: the expulsion of three community beggars begging more than a decade. The Government's reason is that they have been very rich. Three beggars were forced to flee Florida.
Sam cons a bit surprising: 40 years, I have served as priests in six communities, which six community about the population and wealth, but there is a community of people come to church at least repent. Do not be pious people here do? Later, I found there was a adoption of orphans in the community center, where there are five orphans. The five orphans to the community's residents brought the gospel, orphans so that they have a charity place. often do good, the mind is not a problem. Foix three beggars community, but also the gospel of Foix community. to take them off , and Foix community by giving access to people who want to comfort and satisfy the mind there will be no chance. As a priest, I can accept such a bill up?
viewpoints, led a demonstration against the government of the bill. Their slogan is: After one hour from the comfortable. , kindness is not only a personal virtue, or a spiritual need. I hope this society filled with good air, I hope everyone read Emily Dickinson's short poems: If I can stop one heart from sad / I do not lived in vain / If I can relieve the pain of a life / calm an octyl / help one fainting robin / Unto his nest again / I would not have lived in vain.
have a female friend , gentle and kind, received advanced training in early childhood education. She thought of autistic charity Save the Children Centre to work, but where a meager salary, almost the equivalent of voluntary labor. She was very upset, asked for my opinion. I asked her, This work will bring you happy? she said, to help autistic children, watching the smiles on their faces again, healthy growth, I am very happy, great sense of accomplishment. I said, then do it. She said I can go make money, and so pocketed the money, go rescue center? I said, Yes, but you are busy making money in the process, you will forget your own mind and go the other way, it is difficult turn back. Later, she went to the rescue center. because the job well, she received many honors conferred by the community and attract more good men to join the ranks.
issue we do not resist the call of good heart. pleasures to be timely, but also to do good and timely. In fact, very often, do good and pleasures is the same thing.
life ball
5 years ago at a university graduation ceremony, the president of Coca-Cola said BrianDyson
work with some things in his life, the relationship between the words: You must not let any ball landing. You will soon find work is a rubber ball, if it falls, it will then bounce back, while the other four balls: family, health, friends, and spiritual life is made of glass, If you let any one of the four ball fall,
they will wear, damage, or even shattered, and once down, they will no longer be the same as before.
you need to know these things in life managed to strike a balance, but how? do not think you should compare with other people, because everyone is different hh, each person is unique.
Do not do to others as an important set for themselves To reach the target, only you know what he wants.
Do not take for granted all the things close attention should be paid hh have life, because once lost them, your life will be meaningless.
Do not live in the past or just live for the future, and let your life slip by the finger.
attention now, seize the moment, you will live a full life each day. When you still can give, do not light give up; until you stop trying, no one thing has ended.
not afraid to admit that he is not perfect, because it is the weak link us together.
Do not be afraid to face risk, we have to try to brave high school.
hard to find true love and love Do not say you live outside the exclusion. accept the quickest way is to give love, love will soon lose grip it too tightly, and The best way to keep love is to give it free.
Do not rush through life forgetting that he had experienced all sorts of things, and their future direction.
not be afraid of learning, knowledge is weightless, you can easily carry it always with you.
Do not squander time or words, these two things are not recoverable.
life is not a race, but in this way, each step can make you food for thought .
Do not tell people you are smarter than he is smarter than anyone else
mm, if possible, but do not tell them that you are smarter than him.
if someone said something wrong if you think you know is wrong even if mm , you must say more: see where the problem is now. magical effect.
to admit you may be wrong, to never get in trouble. because then, not only to avoid all disputes, but also can make each other just like you tolerant; and, also make He admitted that he may also wrong. If, you are sure someone made a mistake, and told him bluntly, the result will happen then?
one occasion, an interior designer Peter invited his repairing some of the curtains. and so the bill sent , he was shocked. After a few days, a friend of Peter's point of view, see the curtain, asked about the price, his face there looking angry and said: value, you can not buy the cheaper price and have a high quality artistic taste of things, and so on.
next day to visit another friend, began to praise those curtains and appeared very enthusiastic and said She hoped that family can afford to buy those exquisite curtains. Peter's reaction is completely different. sorry set of these. . but if anyone wants to swallow the fact that our hard into the esophagus, you think, how would we feel? performance is not necessarily a good thing too smart.
If you want to know something about dealing with interpersonal relationships, control themselves, improve moral helpful suggestions, check out Benjamin. Franklin's autobiography mm it is one of the most fascinating biography, but also the United States of a novel.
In this autobiography, Franklin describes how he had overcome a good defense habits, not the performance at all times smarter than others, to become the most capable in U.S. history, the most kind and most experienced diplomat.
edgy when Franklin was a young man, one day, a an old friend of the church to him aside and lectured him a sharp: and no one affordable. your friends find you there, they will be very uncomfortable. you know too much, no one can teach you anything, and no one going to tell you something, because that would thankless task, but they confused unhappy. Therefore, you can no longer absorb new knowledge, but your old and very limited knowledge. has been able to mature, wise to realize that he really is so, it found that he was failing and social tragedy of fate. He immediately get rid of the arrogant, boorish habits.
said, Suppose r, l I think one thing that this or that r or l present, seems to me that statement is so r. one thing when someone I disagree, I never once rejected him or immediately corrected his mistake. I When in the answer that under certain conditions and circumstances, and his views are not wrong, but at this matter, appears to be slightly different and so on. I am quick to understand this change my attitude Harvest: whatever I participated in the conversation, the atmosphere is much more harmonious. I humility to express their own views, not only easy to accept, but also reduced the number of conflicts. I found myself wrong, I have no embarrassing scenes.
I myself happen to be the right time, but also make stubborn and they do not agree with me.
. maybe 50 years, no one listened to me have said something too arbitrary, this is my submission of a new bill or amend the old section to get fellow attention, and in a public association of m when the membership has a considerable influence of the important reasons. my poor diction, not to mention eloquent, the choice of words is also very hesitant, but also says the wrong thing, but in general, my advice is to get broad support. on business? We look at an example.
114 Liberty Street New York, the Mai Hani, specialized distribution of special tools used by the oil. a Long Island, he received orders for an important group of patrons, drawing goes to go, get approved, they began manufacturing the tool. However, an unfortunate thing happened: the buyer who talk about it with friends, they warned him, he made a big mistake, he cheated. Everything wrong, too wide, too short, too this, too that, his friends put him angry. So he made a phone call to Mr. Mai Hani, has vowed not to accept that a number of equipment in the manufacturing .
, it is very dangerous. I went to Long Island. When I walked into the office, he immediately jumped up, dashed over a stride towards me, very quickly. He became very excited, talked, waving their fists, tried accusing me and my equipment, but I listened patiently.'s end, he said: l Well, you now how to do? r
: l You are the people who spend money to buy things, of course, should be something for you. But somebody must be responsible for Caixing ah! If you think you are right, please give me a manufacturing drawings, although we have spent 2000 dollars, but we can not mention the money. To make your satisfaction, we would rather sacrifice 2000 dollars. But I must first remind you that if we adhere to as you practice, you must assume this responsibility. but if you let go Let us according to the original plan, I believe, the original plan was right, we can ensure responsible. r
wrong, and God bless you now. r
before the fists, and said that I lay, I want to protect their own different but his argument, I really need to have a high degree of self-control. Indeed, we often need extreme self-restraint, but the results are worth it. If I say he was wrong , began to argue it is likely to fight a lawsuit, emotional breakdown, loss of money, lost a major customer. So, I am convinced that others in this way is wrong, is does not pay. br> Clearly, an inquiring mind in terms of when and where you can benefit from, so you get the business, and reputation on, character and interpersonal relationships, and many other benefits on.
motto in life: < br> The so-called open-minded, is the ability to consciously correct the error, the courage to accept the truth. even if this truth, he is very strange. because the light of truth, after all, can illuminate the way forward. pursued successful people, in humbly accept the truth, it means success.
waiting for you to say thank you
I was passing a resort, saw a crowd surrounding a luxury sedan, all of them craned their necks to look around inside. car next to a designer suits for men anxiously everyone shouted: the nearest gas station hundreds of miles, no wonder he was anxious like a cat on hot bricks.
dressed at his side painted women, said: ; rich if not the letter! injected the right, got out, he looked at it with the expectation of people, men just about to put the money handed hundred children, but was living in a woman snapped: 5 yuan is enough to give him more! Some of angry men: kept many sheep ranchers. His neighbor was a hunter, the yard kept a herd of ferocious dogs. These dogs are often skip the fence and attacked the ranch's lambs. rancher several times asked the dog shut Orion, but Orion disagree verbal promise can be a few days later, he jumped into the ranch house dogs and charging into the red cross, several lamb bites.
intolerable ranchers to find the town judges comments. listened to his complaint, no reasonable judge said: ? and friends, or neighbors? can guarantee you no longer sheep harassment, but also for you to win a friendly neighbor. selected the three most adorable little lamb, gave Orion's three sons. see the gentle white lamb, the children treasured every day after school and lambs in the yard, play play. for fear of harm dogs to the sons of the lamb, Orion made a big iron cage, the dog locked up solidly. Since then, the sheep ranchers no longer being harassed.
kindness to thank ranchers, hunters began to send a variety of game to him, ranchers with lamb and cheese from time to time rebate Orion. Gradually the two became good friends.
to convince a person, the best approach is for his sake, so that he can benefit < br>
a bit ugly chicken farm owner, has always hated the missionaries, because he feels there are too many preachers say one thing and do another set, especially some guys, but their mouths virtue and morality, they do some private shady dealings, led to his angry teeth. In order to meet the One day, two missionaries come, said to buy chickens.
business site, the total not push it, the owner let them pick the huge chicken farm for a long time, did not think they pick on a Mao was almost out, bald and lame cock.
owner Strange, asked them why they buy only the ugly chickens ugly?
one missionary replied: Buy back yard kept in a monastery, to ask passersby to see, then we say it is out of your farm raising chickens. No! you look inside my chicken farm, which is not only beautifully raised, fertilizer Zhuang Zhuang, just do not know how to do this, and all day long love of fighting, it will be inflicted kinds of ugly appearance, carries it outside when you on behalf of, people will get me all the chicken so that it is unfair to me! missionaries promiscuous, but you like to take them as representative of, for us, too unfair, right? unknown to a pole knocked over people on the boat. Just think, in our daily lives, is not it also like the occasional or regular chicken farm owner who, like, fall into the subjective and biased vision, unaware ? fact, the reason why many people relationships deteriorate, argumentative, almost all from this kind of blind expansion effect, the result after the repeated effect. because of preconceptions, we will reduce the communication and understanding; for sweeping, we encompassed some of the stereotypes that reinforce the original passage of time, of course, lost the interactive space, led to Rome was not built in a day's inexplicable rift.
So, between people, we need for greater and more comprehensive view level, but also need to understand open-minded and tolerant in order to balance the overall, comprehensive consideration and avoid many possible imbalance and Hanhen.
error
Who is this company a new tactics approved staff time to the boss and you see a face. ; I King Tong Ye (ye), not King Tong Ye (hua). member is wrong I put the word. promoted to Public Relations Manager, King Tong Ye, that employees were fired.
good typist alert! enhance such employees to do public relations manager for granted. Come and sell your opportunity, but the typist caught it! and called message, a well-known multinational companies are recruiting computer network members, after hiring is of huge salaries, but also because the company great potential for development in recent years new products very popular in the market.
children, of course is would like to apply for the. Vocational training is almost complete in, and this should be true to the hiring, training year, even died, even the sheets on the certificate does not have to take. the child hesitated. father laughed, and said it wants to children play a game. He just bought two large watermelons on the front of the children one by one. to let him pick up one, then, to him to pick up another. child Dengyuan the eye, a difficult jobs to do. hold a sink enough, the two are unable to hold the. tone: gotta give up one of these two in order to obtain another, to see how you have chosen. child epiphany, the final choice of the candidates to give up the training. Later, got his wish, became the staff of that multinational.
ago some days, several students gathering, said the sea is now doing business is increasing. has a student working in an institution, to direct expression of the poet: she also wants to sea, can be more opportunity to make money, but is too reluctant to leave this institution . After all Hanlaobaoshou, work is also quite safe. Therefore, always hesitant. he'd resign and go into a colleague, but also themselves, and doing pretty well, people envy. that of his colleagues said, you do not want to give up, but would like to get a bit too naive. He felt that my colleagues are right, you can still indecisive.
During the reception, also referred to a female. said she was in the class of the most beautiful, most cultured girl . but so far all alone. the source said, all her suitors, so she was dazzled. Simpleton are living today, see the good, see you tomorrow that are good, always want to choose a bed of roses in all aspects. This is not a bad idea can men are people too Ah, finally, the love floating in the air around her dies.
fact, she'd run into a truly love her, care for her, or even prefer to make sacrifices for his boy. The boy is not in the present more common, the more traditional, eye-very real, very little taste man. the girl who saw him as the first candidate to get along quite a long time. can be the same time, the girl was still dating other boys, not anything out of the back thing is like a second chance, and then choose something good. the boy to love her, and last, so unbearable torture. wait until the girls come to realize, the boys have to go abroad and get married, the girl was sorry. may God grant her too much, but she lost the most precious thing.
give up, is also a cost, economics called opportunity cost. in making a choice, in fact, is put into this opportunity cost, and do not know how to give up, what can not give up, what is to all wishes come true, dreams do come true!
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beat ? 100,000 in the UK, there was a lonely old man, no children without women, and frail health, he decided to move to nursing homes. old announced the sale of his beautiful home.
buyers heard the news arrived. residential reserve price ? 80,000, but people will soon be Scoop 10 million it pounds. prices are still rising. elderly people trapped on the sofa, everywhere depression, yes, but for health status can not, he will not sell this building to accompany him to spend most of their lives in the house.
this , a simply dressed young to old eyes, bent down and whispered: sincerely, said: My whole heart to love You! young man! In the open-air swimming pool at home made an interesting experiment, deliberately arranged different people drowning, and then jumped into the water to rescue workers observe the reaction.
interesting results. In a year-long trial, when the white-haired old slide in the water, the total rescue of 20 people. When children slip into the water, a total of 32 people to rescue. And when young women slip into the water, rescue personnel figure rises to 50.
Psychologists say that the test can be shown that there are selfish tendencies of human nature. it is also a rescue, but they jumped out of the water in that moment, I know they really thinking. I can tell that beautiful girl, they drowning and other groups relatively speaking, safe and more.
this test is reminiscent of a place in the back side of the story. an employee, usually so mean, what fund-raising company, he held out a dollar at most, Company employees even if he is so fund-raising.
But what is surprising is that recently he and the mountains north of Zhejiang, a poor student to form pairs of students, he once took out 1,000 yuan.
come up close to one month's wages to the contributions of students, it was not his usual style. But if another way to understand, it is similar to swimming young girl fell into the water rescue personnel field more than the phenomenon of work is that each individual's heart, people are selfish animals, this is not ...